Thursday coming is Time to Talk Day which offers an opportunity for people, organisations and communities to take time out to discuss mental health and to support each other.
The event takes place annually and is organised by a range of mental health organisations and charities across the United Kingdom making it one of the biggest mental health conversations.
Despite all the progress we have made as a society there is still a very real sense of stigma for some around mental health and so a day like Time to Talk carries a huge significance. You can find out more about the day and access resources via the Time to Talk website.
We all know that being encouraged to be open about how you are feeling, to talk about your health and well-being as it relates to your thoughts, feelings and emotions is extremely important. Therefore, creating spaces and places where folks can do so, facilitating an atmosphere where people will be valued and heard when they open up and share, fostering an attentiveness and appreciation amongst family, friends and community is essential.
Yet there are some for whom there are additional challenges who I think we need to increase our collective efforts to support. I’m thinking today of one group of people in particular- older people.
If there remains a societal taboo or discomfort around mental health in general, I think that is accentuated for older people. It is certainly the case that older people talk less openly about their mental health and well-being. Indeed, when I reflect on people of my parents’ generation, brought up as they were in a Hebridean and island culture, the very idea of talking about -even demonstrating – emotions, feelings and mental health seems anathema. They were a generation in large part – and I think this is evidenced in years of research – who were denied the emotional vocabulary and skills to both understand their mental health and to be able to communicate around thoughts and feelings. In no small part my own generation are the inheritors of attitudes and behaviours to mental health which have been hugely damaging and crippling of our own mental well-being.
Someone in their eighties who uses social care services and who is immensely articulate and astute on many issues of politics and on policy affecting social care was in touch with me over the last month or so about the state of social care. As we chatted and conversed not least about their own financial struggles in dealing with soaring energy costs as someone living on a fixed pension income – he began to share more of his own story with me. It became clear to me that here was an individual who was struggling with depression, very low moods and at times suicidal thoughts. But he was starting to talk and open up for the first time in a long time. It has taken immense courage and will on his part to do something about it and to seek professional support – but it all started with him talking and with a conversation however tangential to the issues which were really hurting him. But shamefully one of the very real challenges for his listener was to be able to signpost him too or direct him to someone or a group who were able to help him. Had he been under 25 I would not have had the same challenge even if waiting times might have been obscene.
Perhaps because of the pressures of the time I missed an excellent short report which came out a couple of months ago in November 2022. It is entitled ‘Older adults’ mental health before and during the COVID-19 pandemic: Evidence paper.’ Whilst the title might not grab it is a very insightful description of older person mental health challenges – which also serves to illustrate the paucity of similar exploration in this field. I’m less concerned with the focus on Covid though that is not unimportant but what struck me most was some of the analysis and key findings. Its conclusions are very similar to a report written in 2017 long before Covid. In it countless frontline carers were interviewed and told both myself and other researchers about the hidden hurt of unaddressed mental health issues amongst those older people receiving social care in the community and in care homes. That report was called ‘Fragile Foundations: Exploring the mental health of the social care workforce and the people they support.’
Five years later in 2022 the latest report articulating as it does so many of the same messages highlights not only the shameful absence of research and studies on this population group but also the lack of any tangible progress or ability to learn lessons. It’s almost as if older age mental health matters less than the mental health struggles of others. As it states:
‘There is currently a lack of evidence relating to older adults’ mental health, particularly relating to LGBTI identities, ethnic and religious backgrounds, caring responsibilities and finances and deprivation. There is also little evidence specifically concerning non-statutory mental health services.’
There is a glaring gap in the mental health provision for older Scots and this is wholly unacceptable and damaging. We need to be much more proactive as a society in not only encouraging people regardless of age to talk openly about their mental health but to have avenues and supports to take those conversations should it be necessary.
For too long we have I think deluded ourselves – in part because of a lack of transparent evidence to the contrary in assuming that there are not significant mental health challenges amongst older people. As the latest report states:
‘Older adults appear to report better mental health outcomes than younger adults; however, this might reflect that they are less likely to report poor mental health, particularly due to more stigmatising views of mental health amongst older people and reliance on self-reported data. Findings also indicate that age-related stigma affects older adults in various ways, such as how they are treated in mental health services and how they engage with these services (e.g., not accessing services due to not wanting to be a burden).’
There is also a joint articulation in the report five years ago and the latest one when it warns us that we should avoid viewing older adults as a homogenous group and that there are very real differences in mental well-being between older adults of different ages (e.g., 65-69 and 75+) as well as in gender and whether they lived alone or not. It also underlined the critical importance of avoiding the pitfall of assuming that all older age mental health was about dementia or delirium:
‘A clear distinction should be made between dementia and mental health, particularly in older adulthood. Evidence indicates that an older adults’ mental health issues might be neglected if they are diagnosed with dementia. Mixed wards (i.e., patients with dementia, mental health issues or both) are viewed as detrimental for older adults with mental health issues. Without making a clear distinction between these, a clearer understanding of each is impeded.’
To put it mildly it is disappointing in the extreme that so little has changed in older person mental health provision in Scotland in this period of time including as the latest report states ‘including the varied approach to older adults transitioning from adult to older adult services and the low availability and quality of services.’
Talking as an older person or indeed at any age finding the courage to talk about mental health is not easy the least society and our political leadership can do is to listen with sufficient depth so that we create supports and services that can respond to mental health issues regardless of age.
The young Punjab born Canadian poet Rupi Kaur puts the balance of commitment well in an unnamed poem. From her book The Sun and Her Flowers:
when the world comes crashing at your feet
it’s okay to let others
help pick up the pieces
if we’re present to take part in your happiness
when your circumstances are great
we are more than capable
of sharing your pain